It can be “VERY DIFFICULT” at times.
But, no matter what the challenges may be, it’s up to us as individuals, and families, to accept those challenges, and always try our best to move in a positive motion through our ever changing real life events.
Recently, our son was given full custody of his two little girls (my granddaughters). Some people say it was a battle, some say it was about hate, some people say, what they feel. Fact is, its now about making sure they have balance in their lives, in absence of their mother.
For those haters who believe that “I” may be the one keeping the girls away from their mother, this is just far from the truth. Even though we have had our ups and downs, I am hoping that she will remain in the girls lives.
I will always “LOVE” my daughter-in-law, as it is she, who have given my husband and I “TWO” beautiful granddaughters. It is she, who married our son and gave him some wonderful years. Therefore, however she feels about me, I certainly can’t change, but I will always love her and “HER” girls (my granddaughters), AND “I KNOW” deep inside she “KNOWS” this.
Most people, as we become older, and not in our twenties, understands that not “ALL” marriages survive. But, I believe that “ALL” marriages do survive, as long as the children have that special time with the absent parent, via snap chat, social media, etc. It keeps the connection strong. Yet apart, but close and happy.
I witnessed this just the other day, as I watched my son conduct himself as a man and his ex-wife conduct herself “AT THAT GIVEN TIME AND SPACE” as a “RESPECTFUL” mother. I will never forget that moment. (A special time.) Those girls were “HAPPY”, just to notice mom, and dad watching them, as they were playing and laughing together, -ALL- while both parents were smiling and speaking kindly to one another. “SHE” will always be their “MOTHER“, as I their grandmother.
I want you to know that “EVERYDAY”, my son keeps the door open for communication with their mother, (I respect him for that). Each day while babysitting the girls, I make it “A POINT” to remind them to “TELL THEIR MOTHER THAT THEY LOVE HER”.
I “NEVER” had that connection with my mother, and I want to make sure they have the space needed to always have access to their mother, because she is their “MOTHER” and, she is their “STRENGTH”.
*** SO WHAT HAVE I BEEN DOING?
For several weeks now, I’ve been learning how to become the very best “GRANDMOTHER” I can. By doing so, I have a list of some of the new things I am learning.
Sling, – I rather use bio-flex then use the sling. Too many straps and buttons, and still felt the need to hold my granddaughter anyway.
Don’t get me wrong, some may like the sling thing, but for me, “GIVE ME BIO-FLEX” and a soar hip.
Clothes – so many clothes that I have to roll-up in military style which helps keep outfits together.
Entertainment – Learned so many new nursery rhythms, kid songs, and movies I never thought existed. One of my favorites is: “GRACIE’S CORNER” – Everybody should watch this show. One of my favorite songs is “Good Morning”
Ipad – I watched how fast a one year old can learn to drag-n-drop objects into their appropriate spaces, how quickly she understands what shows she like and/or dislike. I now know for sure, I am living in the “TECH” age.
In the past couple of days, my youngest granddaughter is trying to take steps, I have cameras running at all times to catch that first time moment. I want to make sure her mother will be able to see it at the same time I do. That is, the forward motion of tech age.
So, for those who have wondered what is going on, I am “OFFICIALLY” a “GRANDMOTHER” and I love “EACH and EVERY” moment of it.
Anita Williams, Owner
Householddealz.com
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